Parents; Kids allowed in the Master Bedroom or not?

[forced347]

The wife and I have a huge disagreement in this area. I believe the kids have no business in our bedroom at any time without permission, I need at least one room where I am safe. The wife thinks it is perfectly fine for them to come and go as they please. What's OT's take? FWIW, I grew up that my parents bedroom was off limits as well and we respected that.

[snide]

If I'm not in my bedroom, the kids have no business being there. And my bathroom is off limits too. There are two other bathrooms they can use.

[pewter99]

our parents room was off limits unless we ask or were sent in there for something

[GS Ragtop]

No kids here, but like you I was never allowed into my parent's bedroom without permission.

[rbridges]

I totally agree with you 100%. Although we're inconsistent about it, We've snapped at them about just walking in without permission. It's a respect thing.

[Fastbird]

Granted my little one isn't even crawling around yet, but being from a family where the kid was outlawed from the master bedroom, I plan to have an open door policy with my kids, and the wife is the same. Provided it's not "us" time.

[yellowvette837]

Originally Posted by forced347

FWIW, I grew up that my parents bedroom was off limits as well and we respected that.

[Colorado]

Let the kids in the room, no big deal.

[Allan]

Do they live in the same house?

Do you or do you make them take shoes off before someone walks on the carpet?

[C5Nate]

This concept is so foreign to me I'm having a hard time trying to reply.

IMHO, your wife is correct.

Its your own family, in their house, not your dogs.


No locks on any inside doors except for the guest bathroom at our house.


If the door is shut, just knock and ask first.

[hiperf406]

[vetteweiser]

he's allowed in there with permission ONLY and must knock first if we are or are not in there. I dont like him being in there for any reason other than to grab the dirty clothes or perhaps if I'm in a good mood, to grab a CD. Every other room in the house is fine, but that is my last place I have to call my own (our own) I dont even like him using the chitter with permission in our bedroom....

[Easy Rhino]

Everybody needs a space where they can get away.

Our bedroom was not a space the kids inhabited in general.

Also, our sons each had their own rooms and my wife and I respected their spaces as well and stayed out of them (as long as they kept them picked up).

Now my oldest has his own place, and when his mother and I visit we do not enter his bedroom.

My father had his "den" in the house I grew up in and no one went in without invitation. His space.

Overall, people do better getting along when they have a space that they can call their own.

[Chris Fowler]

My daughter knows to knock and wait for permission before coming into our bedroom. Especially in the morning.

[forced347]

Originally Posted by C5Nate

This concept is so foreign to me I'm having a hard time trying to reply.

IMHO, your wife is correct.

Its your own family, in their house, not your dogs.


No locks on any inside doors except for the guest bathroom at our house.


If the door is shut, just knock and ask first.

For me it's a privacy and respect thing. I have a 5200sqft home and they have free to access all but 600sqft.

FWIW, these are kids 11, 13 and 15

[JoesC5]

It's the kid's house too, we just told them it was off limits anytime the door is shut. One of my fondest memories is when the kids came running into the bedroom, before daylight, bouncing on the bed saying.."come look what Santa brought us". That could never have happened if they were barred from our bedroom.

[forced347]

Originally Posted by JoesC5

It's the kid's house too, we just told them it was off limits anytime the door is shut. One of my fondest memories is when the kids came running into the bedroom, before daylight, bouncing on the bed saying.."come look what Santa brought us". That could never have happened if they were barred from our bedroom.

I'm not an Ogre.....situation dictates but random entry is forbidden, in my eyes.

[Scoob]

Originally Posted by C5Nate

If the door is shut, just knock and ask first.

So simple it's laughable. Applies to any room in the house.

I don't get the concept of an off-limits room in your own home.

[yell01]

If we're in there and the door is open they can come in as they do every morning when they wake up. If the door is closed they need to knock (I usually lock it so they don't see something that would require too many questions and answers ). If we're not in there they don't belong in there at all.

[ft laud mike]

Growing up, I don't recall being specifically told not to enter, but never did-didn't feel "right". Now, 3 y.o., I do not care, but I'm sure it may come up. Coincidentally, my daughter is allowed free reign in my(her g'parents), parents house