blackfd

I always see remarks in threads where modifications or even car purchases are veto'd by your wives, now i'm not married, but I can't see a wife (or anyone else for that matter) making decisions on your behalf for YOUR car and YOUR hobby, as long as other financial responsibilities are met.

gilly6993

get back to that on us if you ever get married....then you'll understand

yamahajo

pretty sure we don't have that problem.

*89x2*

I have yet to ask my wife if I can go and buy a car. I have been married for over a decade and bought a half-doz. vehicles in that time.

She knew the deal, going in to marriage

blackfd

yeah i figure it'll be the same if i ever get married, hobbies wont' go away cause rings come out

c6run

Well I think I am in the minority overall because my wife wants her own after riding/driving mine. She had never been in a vette and didnt know what the big deal was but after doing the museum delivery and the factory tour she wants her own. She also has a lead foot so that may explain some of her desire for the car...

Bottom line if she wants one she will get one on her own just like I buy my cars. I get the approval nod but its really nothing more than this is what I'm doing.

tv_dir

It just depends on the way the things are set up. If you keep separate checking accounts... "your money", your choice.

However, if you pool your paychecks into one, then it's "our money", and our choice.

You have to be married to understand the concept.

blackfd

all i know is if corvettes and oral go away with marriage, why would anyone do it :P

JVM225

The "now i'm not married" part pretty much explains your distorted view.
You have to realize that once you are married the finer things in life are no longer exclusively yours. The only things they let you lay claim to are blunders, malfunctions, mistakes, and misbehaved children. Everything else is either theirs or belongs to both of you jointly.
You can either try to fight it and be miserable, or go along with it and be ...... well........ less so.......... mostly anyway.
Just remember: They ultimately have the power because they have what we all want more than anything and they know how to use it.

tv_dir

I don't know about Corvettes....but if the other goes away...you married the wrong girl!

BrooklynC6

I have two words for you married men , and it has served me well . CASH STASH .

EVRGRN

I guess it really depends on the type of relationship you're in or will be in since there are all kinds. Example, there are married **** stars that go to "work" and then go home to their spouse at the end of the day and both are fine with that. Other people would have a serious problem with that setup.

With some people, their relationship allows them to do whatever with their money - no questions asked. Other people (myself included) will always discuss major purchases with their spouse before pulling the trigger. To me it seems very disrespectful not to do that.

I'll admit though that if I was the only one bringing home a paycheck and I was unfortunate enough to have a wife that did little else except for warming a seat at the country club, I would probably make such a purchase without running it by her at all.

EVRGRN

Good stuff!

JVM225

Well, they don't necessarily have to. Therein lies the secret of “the power” they hold over us. If we behave ourselves we are rewarded. If we don’t we aren’t.

JVM225

Good advice.
The rule of thirds is another important one. Whatever you spend you just tell her 1/3 because for every dollar they think you spend for your toys you must spend at least two on things they want. It ain't right.... it just is.
Knowing the schedule of the UPS and FedEx guys helps too.
Thankfully, my wife has no idea how to acess this forum.

blackfd

LOL!!! so it's a covert mission to order parts to the house?

Mjolitor 68

You dont really need a wife or even a girlfriend

One good Madame can easily fulfill any of those needs

Last Canadian Exit

It is a double edged sword for me. My wife was the one that told me to get the Vette, but she never lets me forget that I always get what I want! HAHAH!

Shrike6

I guess the reason our marriage has lasted so long is that we respect each other enough to want each other's ?buy in? on big ticket items. My wife likes lots of expensive things, but has never just gone out and blown a ton of cash without getting my agreement. She also knows which things I want bad enough that she urges me to get them. It works well for us.
GM

mkr3686

Same here for me as well and I am going on 11 years now. Lots depends on the particular situation and how well one gets along with the significant other. I have a friend who anytime he buys something for himself, his wife wants equal treatment and to also be allowed something. That whole situation can escalate and when the guy says no or gets mad about it, it makes the women more and more sour over time. For them, that situation has escalated in things like free time and going out with friends even once a week - the other then wants the same free time (ie. free time is going out and not staying home to watch the kids, hence the other parent is stuck being baby sitter).

Most situations like this are minimized when the family income is high enough that all bills are paid and both wife and husband can happily have their expensive hobbies or special indulgences without getting or giving each other grief over it. It definitely helps if both persons share similar interests but not necessary if all other things in the marriage are working properly.